Laura Belland

My 84 y/o father was in Milford Hospital very ill & dying slowly, which he accepted. After 67 yrs together she was struggling w/his dying. I, as a critical care RN, explained the consequences he might go through if they had to do cpr, being on a vent & unable to wean off etc. Asked him if he wanted a DNR & he said wasn’t ready just yet as was worried about his wife. I informed one hospital Dr of his decision when they approached me, as his medical POA, regarding making him a DNR. Despite this the next 5 days Dr Belland harassed my parents every day re a DNR. She was told repeatedly he was lucid & his decision was to not be a DNR. Dad was livid she kept harassing us & wouldn’t take “not now” for an answer! She was asked to leave repeatedly. My dad became very angry & told her & my mom to leave. He somehow associated us w/Dr’s actions. He said all right I’ll die & wouldn’t acknowledge mom for 2.5hrs. He died 3 hours after she left. I was told by dr she made him a DNR against our wishes.